Quick kids question

[CaveBear]

Yeah, ummm...no thanks. This everyday would send me to an asylum, permanently.

[johncfc]

We're being terrorised by a 3 year old girl.

She pretty much bit a chunk out of her little sister last night...we confiscated ervything, even her clothes and still no remorse. She cried and said sorry - I seperated them and made 3 yr old sleep inour room away from her sister thinking we set her straight ;last night.

First thing she does this morning is bat me in the face, jump off the bed and start screaming at the top of her lungs for her mummy. This was 6am. Our neighbour that we share a thin wall with is a psychiatrist Fcuk knows what he thinks is going on in here. My mum reckons they're going to ring social services! Hope they do, that'll set the little ****er straight, surely.

In all seriousness, I wonder if we're doing more damage by letting her know that we're upset and simply not ignoring her. But when she turns around and hits us or bites her little sister REALLY hard on the back, then I don't know what to do apart from letting her know in the strogest terms wheast she did was wrong and that there are consequences for her actions.

My little angel has turned into a demon in less than a month. I had 2 beautiful little girls last xmas. Now I have a beautiful baby and a psychotic 3 yr old

I really feel for you and your family.

It seems like you guys have been trying everything you can think of. Have you talked to your doctor?

Your doctor may have some ideas or know of services you can use.

[Faydee]

Bobo thanks for backing me u but i get what you are saying too Baph LOL

[Straight_Crown]

Have you considered abortion?

[slystone]

Thanks again for everyone taking the time to post.

Food: she eats very well, as does her little sister. We make sure they get fresh food prepared by us for every meal. Except for sushi and the occaisional (my spelling is ****ed) hot chippies from the fish shop...but not very often ,maybe once a fortnight. We're both very conscious of what they both eat.

Jasonlk - so you're in a very similar situation except its me doing the calling to my wife at work. Its really hard and I can simpathise with her predicament. Bottom line is, and this is where we've got to - its ALL jealousy. She said the other night that "bubby doesn't say please" and a couple of other things that made us realise its simply that. Nothing is simple, but you know what I mean.

Sooo, we've taken steps to reward her increasing good behaviour with treats just for HER, that her sister isn't allowed. This is a bad example as it involves chocolate, but the other day I gave her a piece of what she knows is my "special" chocolate...and made it very clear that bubby wasn't getting any, it was for her because she'd been using her manners really well. She cuddled up with and I swear the next day (Thursday) was the best day I've had with her recently. It was pouring with rain so we were stcuk inside for the day, but we went out into the driving rain for a little adventure and then played in the house and she was soo beautiful. Cuddled her sister, used her manners all day and went to bed on her own, unprompted, at night.

We're so relived. I'm silently hoping that she's over being TOTALLY out of control. She's been pretty good in the last 48 hours - and wife and I are going out to my best friend's 40th tonight - our first night out since April 2009. No joke for all of you thinking about having kids..

@Faydee - its a difficult thing to discuss openly as you feel as though people judge you etc, but godamnit yes she does get smacked on a bare bottom. Only by me generally, and I can hold back when I'm angry so she's never been smacked TOO hard...but it IS reserved for one particular type of behaviour - hurting her sister (who is only 18 month compared to her 3 years). If she hurts bubby she generally gets whalloped - I make it very clear why, she knows its coming, and so thankfully the behaviour is becoming less and less violent (she would punch bite or kick her HARD), so now even the threat of it is enough when she is put in her naughty place. We have started putting her in a place that is seperated from her toys, her sister and us with a little cam that I can watch on my phone when we're in the house (fully encrypted sh1t, thankfully I know how ).

Looks like things are improving - and I want to thank everyone again for their generous input. We don't have too much of a "support group" and dealing with all of this - especially as a man in a traditionally female role - has been harder than I can explain, so thanks for keeping me sane. I've been posting here for quite a few years now and know I have a few good friends in similar position here, past or present.

Jim, thats exactly the **** I've had thrown at me, sometimes beginning as early as 5am. This picture says it all. Hope you're good bro

[Faydee]

good to hear Sly 3 year olds are crazy!

[slystone]

What the **** is wrong with 3 year old girls?

Thank god the seasons are changing = she's sleeping past even 6am now

Drinking caffiene rapidly before I'm relived for the day - my Mum has stepped up and not only looked after them when we went out on saturday, but is taking them for the whole day today. Might even be able to squeeze in a movie

She was still up at 10.30 last night, despite us trying to let her stay up a bit on the promise that she would go to bed without a fuss. Cue screaming like a wild hyena while I carry her to her bed, wake up the baby and then everyone was up! Baby needed panadol due to swollen face and some new teeth, so we gave her that, settled her down and then 3 year old - we noticed - had passed out in the hallway! She does that, just goes to sleep in a 10-20 second window. I wish I could do that...