How does one cope with the fact that are going to married, spend the rest of their lives together? 6-8 months ago I was cool as a cucumber, now I realize Iím about to get married to someone that gets on my nerves and cannot bare to be around for more than a few hours. I get married on Saturday January 5th, and now I feel nervous as hell. I went to 2 older siblings and went into greater detail on certain things I felt and worried me, their response was thatís how they felt going into their first marriages. How soon will it be until I get my balls cut off and the decision making changes drastically? I use to see a buddy of mine that was so miserable after he got married and use to think he just didnít have a spine, no testicular fortitude to stand up to his wife. Will this to happen to me? I haz a sad.
That is some heavy **** man. I was really nervous when I got married, but not because I had cold feet. I was more nervous about the ceremony and actual wedding day than being married. That being said, I was 30 when I got married and had already been and living with my wife for 6 years and was really happy about our situation.
I have had one friend who had serious doubts before getting married. He thought it would all work itself out once they were actually married, but things only got worse. He told me afterwards that in his heart he knew he was making a mistake, but didn`t know how the hell to get out of it. He ended up separated after 6 months and divorced the next year.
What you are describing doesn`t really sound like cold feet to me. If you really can`t stand being around her, I can`t really see how things will get better. Hard to say though without having other information.
He almost never knows what the **** he's talking about it, which explains why his 'opinions' are always so ****ed up.
He's a 10 year old who memorizes information intended for intelligent adults. He doesn't understand what he knows.
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This is why I had a baby before committing. Kinda like Robert Dinero in Casino.
Wait 'til she throws Stalins five year plan on ya before you really start trippin.
even when I'm far away from home i can see Cali with my eyes closed
fuk her sister than get back to us... or if she doesnt have a sister her mom will do ...
seriously if you are feeling that weird about it you might need to pull the ripcord right now before she gets half your stuff
Last edited by Faydee; 01-02-2013 at 01:15 PM.
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I liked your Facebook photo for this drama Sh!t?
Fuk, how's the divorce laws in Texas? 50/50?
Think before you make a mistake.
if she already annoys the hell out of you, and you can't stand to be around her for more than a few hours, than you could be in trouble. The truth is that it probably won't get much better.
a few questions:
1. how old are you? 2. how long have you been with your girl?, 3. Why did you ask her to marry you?, 4. Do you plan on having kids and if so would it be soon?, 4. Can you get laid consistently if you broke up with her?
marriage isn't easy even if you find someone that you always want to be around, let alone someone who you can't stand for most of the time prior to being married. you will never lose the urge to bang every hot girl that you see, but if your in a traditional marriage you have to supress those instincts. I have spoken about the ups and downs of marriage a few times over here. Overall, I love my wife, but there are definitely many times when she drives me insane. we have had our share of blowout fights (unfortunately more blowouts than blowjobs lately) I have 2 young kids now who are 3 1/2 and 2 months, and that has both made marriage a lot harder but sometimes better (there is very little alone time since one of us is taking care of one of the kids pretty much from 6 AM until 11:30 PM) You get tired, and many little things end up driving you crazy about each other. on the other hand, for me, there is nothing better in the world than playing with my daughter (the older one), and I love to just look at the baby and hold him.
as far as having a life besides just your wife, I think you have to stand up pretty early and make it clear that while your wife is the most important person in your life, its healthy for both of you to get out and see your friends at times. you need alone time too. I don't go out a lot these days, but see my friends after work (working in NYC makes it easy to go out for happy hours),normally have 1 or 2 very drunken nights per year (which she hates), watch pretty much every UFC PPV either at a bar or with friends, etc...that has now become accepted. i also encourage her to go out with friends when she has the opportunity.